A letter from the passed/past

She said she was sorry she blamed me. She said she should have kept closer ties with her son. She asked me for forgiveness. She was thinking long and hard about a lifetime of toxic behaviors, and a lifetime of misunderstanding.  Willing to look at your part in the mess? Know your world, your choices, close in sometimes the worst of all. The family member who is a predator, emotionally or spiritually or physically or sexually.  The bully, the abused becoming the abuser. The neighbor, the priest, the coach, or anyone else who saw the weak and neglected and preyed on the them. Wake up, take this personally and seriously, talk about it and own your part in the hurt, the loss, the pain of the addiction that results from trauma. Parents be with YOUR own kids. Watch them closely, love them, teach them to speak up and truthfully, even if it makes a mess. No more suicides or traumas from this issue please. And for the Mother who wrote me, I accept your apology. Now forgive yourself.