How to ask not tell

If you ask, I may or may not accommodate you. If you tell, I for sure will not. I have always been like that. I do not like people to take my free will away, ever. Choices all day every day. You make them and so do I. I love asking.... What about this, or that, how high or when. I love the answers from various people for various reasons. Remember, you are not here to tell anyone but you, what, when and how high. Ask if you want, and accept, the answer with a smile. No more conflict this way and peace will prevail!! I am asking you to consider this way of living!