Dates matter

September 10, 1960 my mother got married. I went to the service as a two year old, not happy. September 10, 2018 I met another fella who was trying to be someone else's dad. I saw the struggles in my step father, and then many years later in another man's try at the step parent reality. I listened to the stories about the work it took and the inability to feel connected. As I look into the future this shows me much about the world of loss, lack, and less. Being a step child is hard, the DNA telegraph is not hooked up. The child has no natural inclination toward that human. Without roots life is wobbley for a kid. That is one third of the connection humans have to support the relationship. Environment is another third, habits, hobbies, food intake and balance in the life, the day to day happenings. Then comes the emotional/spiritual third that is that pivotal component. Happy people only get sick or hurt for a moment. It offers pause and perspective, growth and development. It is the time out Source offers to reconsider life. Kids in step are often stressed as they are not connected fully. It takes consideration, and focus to compromise in that reality. Unity is challenging even in a related family. Peace and freedom should be the order of the day. Respect is earned. Ask what you have to offer those in that situation. Our world needs our commitment to healing, contracts between humans need an upgrade. Start with your own, special dates with those you love matter, even the little children deserve that special time. Come together, try not to push that square peg of a step child into that round hole/whole of an unrelated adult. Kids need gentle shaping and steps take time.